The engagement!!!!

      Congratulations,... you have made the first step toward the rest of your lives. Now remember how you felt when he/she asked you to marry them and when the person being asked said yes. That excitement will carry you through all of the potential hardships that could arise during the planning proses. For some these things may never happen for some making these plans will go smooth as butter, Although for others planning a wedding can ultimately destroy a hole bunch of relationships at once.

     Remember when you are getting ready to get married you are not only marrying your future spouse you are marrying their entire family as well. Marriage is a union of two people into one and should be looked upon as that. With doing this it can potentially spell disaster for anyone and everyone involved. Now that is not to say that this issue will be there for everyone.

     You and your spouse need to remember as you guys are planning this that this is YOUR day, and that no one should influence you to change or modify your wonderful day to benefit them. Weather that be as simple as the date of the wedding or the food served at the reception. Make the plans and those that it is important to be there for you will be. Changing plans, moving the date will only cause heart ach later and while the date may not seem like much now it will later and will only cause resentment in one or the others heart. This inadvertently will also show you who your real friends are and who could potentially be your future worst nightmare.

     I know with my wedding my mother in-law decided to start pushing us to move the date up while we stood our ground for a long time we eventually caved and moved the date changed who would be allowed to come and so on. This also meant that most of my family was not able to attend even though most of them had already made the appropriate arrangements to be there for the original date, and even though we had said immediate family only they proceeded to bring all of their friends as well. Like I said resentment. Not for my wife but for my mother in-law thus causing our first issue to not be so easy to resolve. Thus the reason I am now writing this blog. You see over the last 2 years or so God has been gracias enough to teach me a few lessons that I feel led to share with others so that maybe just maybe they do not suffer the same fate and maybe they might see the warning signs much sooner than I.